879 posts analyzed Updated Sep 2026
Averages 29 posts/day, top 10% activity. Most active Mondays around 4 PM UTC. Mostly text posts (100%).
r/BDSMAdvice Traffic & Engagement r/BDSMAdvice Traffic & Engagement
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r/BDSMAdvice Trending Keywords Trending Keywords in r/BDSMAdvice
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| Keyword | Mentions ▼ | Upvotes | Comments |
|---|---|---|---|
| advice | 97 (11.0%) | 6 | 10 |
| dom | 71 (8.1%) | 12 | 12 |
| sub | 63 (7.2%) | 10 | 12 |
| bdsm | 63 (7.2%) | 6 | 11 |
| need | 54 (6.1%) | 6 | 10 |
| kink | 44 (5.0%) | 11 | 15 |
| play | 44 (5.0%) | 4 | 9 |
| help | 39 (4.4%) | 3 | 8 |
| dynamic | 33 (3.8%) | 12 | 11 |
| partner | 30 (3.4%) | 5 | 7 |
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r/BDSMAdvice Top Posts Top Performing Posts in r/BDSMAdvice
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Dom threatened to cut my hair
New meds spiked my (22f) libido and I discovered a niche fetish, now I’m really ashamed. Don’t know how to tell my spouse (24m).
Is there a term for this form of cnc?
feeling discouraged after my first munch /:
Married to vanilla, this is my life, I guess.
Wife says she feels “shattered” after restraint + spanking + sex and I have to “bring her back” — 10 min of holding isn’t enough. What does aftercare actually look like?
I let a "Dom" use me and he didn't care about my pleasure
My sub has quietly ended our dynamic
Nosy coworker thinks I’m being abused advice?
Caught feelings and now I have to break off the d/s dynamic I've always wanted
| Title | Upvotes | Comments | Type | Date |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Dom threatened to cut my hair | 303 | 134 | text | Sep 6 |
| New meds spiked my (22f) libido and I discovered a niche fetish, now I’m really ashamed. Don’t know how to tell my spouse (24m). | 199 | 49 | text | Sep 14 |
| Is there a term for this form of cnc? | 189 | 38 | text | Sep 11 |
| feeling discouraged after my first munch /: | 168 | 57 | text | Sep 18 |
| Married to vanilla, this is my life, I guess. | 164 | 51 | text | Sep 17 |
| Wife says she feels “shattered” after restraint + spanking + sex and I have to “bring her back” — 10 min of holding isn’t enough. What does aftercare actually look like? | 153 | 92 | text | Sep 1 |
| I let a "Dom" use me and he didn't care about my pleasure | 153 | 26 | text | Sep 25 |
| My sub has quietly ended our dynamic | 151 | 53 | text | Sep 3 |
| Nosy coworker thinks I’m being abused advice? | 150 | 63 | text | Sep 1 |
| Caught feelings and now I have to break off the d/s dynamic I've always wanted | 125 | 63 | text | Sep 27 |
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r/BDSMAdvice FAQ Frequently Asked Questions About r/BDSMAdvice
What's the best time to post on r/BDSMAdvice?
Based on posting volume, r/BDSMAdvice is most active on Mondays around 4 PM UTC. That window has the most community activity, but busier hours also mean more competition for attention.
How active is r/BDSMAdvice?
r/BDSMAdvice averages 29 posts per day and ranks in the top 10% for activity among tracked SFW subreddits.
How many upvotes do posts on r/BDSMAdvice get?
Posts on r/BDSMAdvice average about 8 upvotes this month (net score per post).
What kind of posts does r/BDSMAdvice get most?
On r/BDSMAdvice, most posts are text posts (100%)